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1.8 Being in the present 活在現在

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When we talk about self improvement, we often talk about mastery of success. But if success comes at a high emotional① toll1②, it can often turn into a failure. In our life we usually either live in the future, always thinking of things to come, or in the past, where our memories hunt us, day after day. It is very rare that we put all our energy in living in the present and enjoy the emotional freedom this brings.

  When we spend time only planning or dreaming about things that didn’t happen yet, we often forget things that are extremely important right now. For example:

  Let’s say that you are always thinking on how you are going on a vacation, and how wonderful it will be, and all the adventures you are going to have. Meanwhile, in the present, you work 7 days a week and are extremely stressed. You are so stressed, as a matter of fact, that you do not see how you can take a vacation at all. In your head the thoughts of vacation become a dream that is fading③ further and further away. It becomes a sort of an escape from your grim2④ reality.

  Now let’s look at the same scenario3⑤ with a different twist. When you start having thoughts of a vacation, you realize that you work really hard, and you can not afford to let that kind of stress rule your life. So you do everything possible to take time off and make that vacation a reality. Being in the present gave you emotional freedom that didn’t cloud your judgment4.

  Past can be dangerous, if we spend most of our time there instead of living in the present. Here is an example of that:

  You just went through a break up of a long term relationship, but you can’t let go. It hunts you. You find yourself constantly thinking of your ex., analyzing5 what could have been, thinking about the reasons why the relationship ended. This makes you very unhappy.

  Same scenario with a different outlook would be like that. The relationship is over. You mourn; go through all the necessary stages, but soon you realize that it was for the best. You look at your present situation and see that it is a new beginning for you. You start dating again and realize that it can be a lot of fun. You shed the old hair style, your old wardrobe. You become a new person simply by realizing your present situation and letting go of the past. Here emotional freedom allowed you to let go of the past and successfully move on.

  This ability is so crucial that developing only that one skill will propel6 your life to unbelievable heights of success. In order for us to be able to do everything we need to in our day-to-day activities, we need to feel good. Nothing makes us feel good as not being preoccupied7 by the thoughts and emotions of things that passed or did not even happen yet. This skill is invaluable8 in the success toolbox of our self improvement.

  ① emotional a. 情感的

  ② toll n. 代價

  ③ fade v. 枯萎,衰退

  ④ grim a. 嚴酷的

  ⑤ scenario n. 某一特定情景

  當我們談論自我完善時,我們談論更多的是把握成功。但如果成功是以大量的情感為代價,往往可能變成失敗。在我們的一生中,我們通常要么生活在未來——總是想著將要發生的事情,要么生活在過去——記憶縈繞在我們腦海之中,日復一日。而我們把所有的精力都用在現在的生活并且享受其所帶來的情感自由的時候卻是非常罕見的。

  當我們總是把時間花在規劃或者夢想還沒有發生的事情的時候,我們常常會忘記此刻非常重要的事情。例如:

  假設你一直在設想著你將如何去度假,這個假期將會如何地美妙以及你即將經歷的所有的冒險活動。與此同時,你現在每周工作7天而且壓力極大。事實上,你的壓力已經大到你根本無法預見到你將如何去度假。于是你腦海中度假的想法變成了一個逐漸凋零的夢,它演變成了你對嚴酷現實的某種逃避。

  現在讓我們看看在相同的情境下截然不同的表現吧。當你開始有度假的想法時,你意識到你工作真的很辛苦,你不能讓這種壓力控制你的生活。所以你盡一切可能抽出一部分時間去度假。活在現在給了你情感自由,那并不會影響你的判斷。

  如果我們大部分的時間都花在回想過去而不是生活在現在,一樣很危險。這里就有一個例子:

  你剛剛經歷了一場多年的戀愛,最終分手了,但你不能釋懷。這種感覺困擾著你。你發現你不斷地想起你的前男(女)友,不斷地分析原本應該怎么樣,不斷地思考感情結束的原因。這使你非常苦惱。

  同樣的情境但是不同的觀點將會是這樣的:感情結束了,你懷念它,經歷了所有必要的階段,你很快意識到這也許不是件壞事。你考慮目前的情況,發現這對你來說是一個新的開始。你又開始約會,并意識到生活可以有無窮的樂趣。你換掉舊的發型,舊的衣柜。只不過因為你認識到了目前的情況并且放下了過去,你就煥然一新了。在這一點上,情感自由讓你放下了過去并且順利地繼續前行。

  這種能力是如此的重要,以至于僅僅培養這一種能力將會提升你的生活,令其達到一個令人難以置信的成功高度。為了讓我們能夠做到我們在日常活動中需要做的一切,我們要心情愉快。如果思緒和情感沒有被過去或者將來的事情全部占據,我們的心情就會非常愉快。在我們成功地達到自我完善的技能中,這種技能是無價的。

  反思:在情感上放自己自由,去改善你今天和明天的生活……


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1 toll LJpzo     
n.過路(橋)費;損失,傷亡人數;v.敲(鐘)
參考例句:
  • The hailstone took a heavy toll of the crops in our village last night.昨晚那場冰雹損壞了我們村的莊稼。
  • The war took a heavy toll of human life.這次戰爭奪去了許多人的生命。
2 grim dfcxR     
adj.嚴酷的,令人害怕的,不愉快的,討厭的
參考例句:
  • I've had a grim day.我過了不愉快的一天。
  • His expression was grim when he told them they had lost their jobs.當他告訴他們說他們已被解雇時,他的表情十分冷酷。
3 scenario lZoxm     
n.劇本,腳本;概要
參考例句:
  • But the birth scenario is not completely accurate.然而分娩腳本并非完全準確的。
  • This is a totally different scenario.這是完全不同的劇本。
4 judgment e3xxC     
n.審判;判斷力,識別力,看法,意見
參考例句:
  • The chairman flatters himself on his judgment of people.主席自認為他審視人比別人高明。
  • He's a man of excellent judgment.他眼力過人。
5 analyzing be408cc8d92ec310bb6260bc127c162b     
v.分析;分析( analyze的現在分詞 );分解;解釋;對…進行心理分析n.分析
參考例句:
  • Analyzing the date of some socialist countries presents even greater problem s. 分析某些社會主義國家的統計數據,暴露出的問題甚至更大。 來自辭典例句
  • He undoubtedly was not far off the mark in analyzing its predictions. 當然,他對其預測所作的分析倒也八九不離十。 來自辭典例句
6 propel GRUxg     
vt.推進,推動,激勵,驅策
參考例句:
  • They use oars to propel boats.他們用漿推進船只。
  • Paddles are used especially to propel canoes and kayaks.短槳特別用于劃獨木舟和小艇。
7 preoccupied TPBxZ     
adj.全神貫注的,入神的;被搶先占有的;心事重重的v.占據(某人)思想,使對…全神貫注,使專心于( preoccupy的過去式)
參考例句:
  • He was too preoccupied with his own thoughts to notice anything wrong. 他只顧想著心事,沒注意到有什么不對。
  • The question of going to the Mount Tai preoccupied his mind. 去游泰山的問題盤踞在他心頭。 來自《簡明英漢詞典》
8 invaluable s4qxe     
adj.無價的,非常寶貴的,極為貴重的
參考例句:
  • A computer would have been invaluable for this job.一臺計算機對這個工作的作用會是無法估計的。
  • This information was invaluable to him.這個消息對他來說是非常寶貴的。
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